I was asked a very interesting question by one of my colleagues recently. The question was: Where do you get your confidence? My colleague went on to say that she had noticed twice— in conversations that I had with her and others—that I was happy to say stuff I was doing was good. Like this blog, for example. She asked the question because a) she could see that we had had a similar dysfunctional upbringing and b) she didn’t feel at all confident, possibly because of hers and c) wanted to know why I was, despite my toxic childhood. At